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[greatoldjohn]

[in a rather deep voice] "This is John Doe. Please leave your message. I'll get back to you as soon as I can. I may respond in text if I'm currently with Arthur. Apologies."

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[greatoldjohn]

[A fair point.]

[ Shut up. He's allowed to have feelings.

...and yes, he knows he's a bad liar. You don't have to rub it in, Arthur. Christ. ]

[ I was there during your first discussion, as you recall. When things began to go... poorly, for lack of a better word, I messaged her. She... shares my unfortunate tendency to react to hurt and disappointment with anger and aggression. ]

[lestercraft]

Yes, that explains the deja vu.

[Taking the piss a bit, but it's not necessarily wrong.]

I didn't realise you were messaging her, I'll admit. It certainly didn't seem like she was changing tactics in any way. Just felt like she wanted to win.

[greatoldjohn]

[ Thus our first argument, between Misty and myself. I tried to... deescalate the situation and she refused to act on my advice. I thought it was because she chose not to, but it turns out it was because you'd hurt her feelings.

I can show you the messages once we're back in our cabin, if you'd like. Most of it was public anyway. ]

[lestercraft]

I hurt-- [But the defensive bark cuts itself off with a soft splutter, and he gives a grunt of annoyance as he looks away.] Alright, yes, I know that, but I couldn't tell you how many bloody times I seem to have done it, least of all because she seemed to be making a game of trying to get under my skin in response to every fucking one.

[greatoldjohn]

[I know. She does that. ]

[ Very very resigned. ]

[She doesn't like to stop attacking when something like that happens because she thinks it makes her look weak and vulnerable. I tried to explain that isn't the case, but she didn't believe me.

I also told her that you didn't even realize she was looking for empathy when she did. She didn't really believe me then either.]

[lestercraft]

Jesus Christ. [He leans a hip against the ledger podium so he can rub his face with his hand.] You know the argument I had with the girl, Kyoko. She came to me a few days later and we had a discussion about her behaviour, a proper one, about how knowing when you've overstepped and apologising for it isn't weakness. Being able to acknowledge that you've hurt someone and making an active choice to step away from an argument doesn't make you vulnerable. It makes you the bigger person.

[He scoffs dryly.]

I can't believe a literal child is able to grasp the concept more succinctly than a grown fucking woman.

[greatoldjohn]

[Given that she graduated shortly thereafter, it sounds as if Kyoko had progressed far enough on her journey to understand such a concept.

But I'm glad to hear that you cleared things up with Kyoko before she left.]

[lestercraft]

Yes. It was on the advice of her warden, admittedly, but she did a wonderful job at trying to understand how to go about our argument better next time. And it turns out we truly did have more in common than we suspected, so we even managed to get a quick bit of bonding in before she buggered off to adventure.